Living our lives clean and sober

The Importance of having an Addiction Recovery Plan

One of the most gratifying things in my life is now living my life clean and sober. Its always good to have an addiction recovery plan and follow it.  this is often referred to as a Relapse prevention plan.  With out a plan we have no idea where we are going.

Its one thing to stop drinking or drugging, but its entirely another thing to start changing things in your life.  Many new comers say “Just tell me what i have to change, and I will do it.”  My response to them is this, “You have to change EVERYTHING in your life.” with maybe the exception of your wife and kids, and that may have to change as well.

SOME SIMPLE MYTHS – you will hear in recovery rooms

RELAPSE IS INEVITABLE – Understand that relapse is common, but it isn’t inevitable.  I am inclined to think that it is as a result of finding excuses, our brain wants a fix and will come up with great ideas why we should relapse.

RELAPSE MEANS FAILURE – if we relapse we certainly have not failed.  I like to think of it as a bump in the road.  It is a learning moment.  What weren’t we doing prior to the relapse.  We will talk more about that in another post.

RELAPSE CAN’T BE PREVENTED = We have to recognize the symptoms and we’re honest with our recovery community and our sponsor.

These are but a few myths about relapse, if we are working our program and looking after ourselves – there is no reason to relapse.  A great book written by a fellow I did some training with at the Betty Ford Center, Dr. Harry HAROUTUNIAN is a good read.  Simple language and great material. Dr. Harry is a medical doctor who really understands addiction as he too is an alcoholic.
The following is a write up on the book.  I do encourage getting it and reading it.

As Featured on The Dr. Oz Show in Special Addiction Episode with Steven Tyler**
The disease of addiction affects 1 out of 10 people in the United States, and is a devastating―often, fatal―illness. Now, from the physician director of the renowned Betty Ford Center, comes a step-by-step plan with a realistic “one-day-at-a-time” approach to a disease that so often seems insurmountable. With a focus on reclaiming the power that comes from a life free of dependency,Being Sober walks readers through the many phases of addiction and recovery without judgment or the overly “cultish” language of traditional 12-step plans.

It also addresses the latest face of this disease: the “highly functioning” addict, or someone who is still able to achieve personal and professional success even as they battle a drug or alcohol problem. Dr. Haroutunian tackles this provocative issue head-on, offering new insight into why you don’t have to “bottom out” to get help. Dr. Haroutunian is himself a recovering alcoholic and knows firsthand the challenges of sobriety. His background and expertise in the field of alcohol and drug treatment give him a powerful edge and perspective that is unparalleled in his field.

Using clear, straightforward language, Being Sober offers a proven path toward an emotional sobriety and a rewarding new life based on gratitude, dignity, and self-respect.
Including a Foreword written by Steven Tyler.

15 thoughts on “Living our lives clean and sober”

  1. This is a great post. I new an alcoholic and I just don’t think he was willing to make the changes in his life to live a clean and sober life. It’s something that you have to live. I think you did a wonderful job of explaining the recovery process. Some think it too simple I believe. Changing your life and attitude is definitely the key. Thanks for sharing!

      1. Hi PSheridan,
        Thank you for your work in this area of addiction and the coaching. This work is so vital to many individuals, their families, and their communities. We can feel the caring in your coaching as well as your wisdom. Please don’t stop.
        Much Love,


  2. I think it’s terrific you are sharing your insight on recovery. This is so important and people really need the support of others after getting clean. I thought it was interesting that there are so many incorrect ideas about relapse and I like your take that it is not necessarily inevitable. Great topic for a site! Nice work!

  3. I enjoy the read on the section “Thought for the Day”. They are all very right, deep for understanding, and kind to the harsh reality in recovery and/or for living a peaceful and beautiful life.
    Thank you for your sharing. They have been refreshing and have recharging capacity.

  4. I really like how you dispel some myths about addiction and reassure that it is not a failure if you relapse. We all struggle and when you continue to make the right steps, relapse becomes less and less of a worry.

    One thing I like to think about addiction is that it is not just drugs and alcohol. Many people have addictions to many things that are unhealthy for their relationships, work, or their actual health. I myself am addicted to video games and it interferes with my relationships at times and I need to curb my addiction. It is different with any type of addiction though.

    Congrats to you on being clean and sober and that should be something to be very proud of.

    1. Hello Matt-P – thanks for taking the time to comment on addiction. I agree with you that there are many addictions that cause us as much problem as drugs or alcohol. Relationships, sex, food, work, internet, smart phones etc all consume us some to the point that our lives are becoming unmanageable. The only way to curb an addiction is total abstinence from what it is your are having trouble with. Seems very difficult to get it under control by limiting it. Can you go 90 days with out a game. Then maybe you could introduce it back to your life in small amounts. Anyway thanks for visiting keep in touch. Thanks again for your comments,

  5. I wish my son had seen you 20 years ago. Now he has nothing to show. Bad heart ags he just had by pass heart surgery. He has burned so many Bridges and frankly on last one. He lives with his daughter who is a new mom. He has been thru all family and friends. My heart aches that he got no help like you offer. God bless you

    1. Hello Bill – I am so sorry to hear about your Son. I just want to say its never too late to make changes. Not sure how old he is but change can happen at any age depending on his desire and what mode of treatment he chooses. I would love to chat with him or you and see what we can do – if he wants too. You can’t want his recovery more than he does. Sometimes the only thing we can do is release them to their journey, pray and see what happens. That being said please feel free to email me and we can chat some more or if i can just give you some support in dealing with it – I will do that as well. My email or

  6. Hi I just want to tell you that you are doing an awesome and very selfless job helping other people with problems like this. Fortunately by grace I don’t have this problem, but I applaud you for doing this for your fellow human being. Thank you, your reward is waiting for you!
    Take care.

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